The bedroom is a place where a couple can let go, but its not just as easy as climbing under the duvet and making love. There’s an element of romance to sex that makes it far more enjoyable. Its all about setting the mood. Us ladies have just as many vivid sexual fantasies as you guys, but we dont like sharing them with our partners. Their is a very fine line between ordinary sex and extraordinary sex, Extraordinary sex is this fantasy element.

So what can men do to set the mood and bring out tour fantasies?

Create an atmosphere

If it’s romantic love you want to make, set the atmosphere so that it reflects this. The bedroom has to feel sensual and inviting to us. If you want your partner to feel a certain mood, the music can set it. During sex, music can maintain the mood, create an atmosphere, and set a rhythm you can follow. Obviously, death metal is not adequate; it’ll only spoil the mood and turn her off.

Now you have the soft music playing, fill the room with some candles. Scented candles add a certain charm and feel to a romantic night. Their are certain fragrances that send us women wild, so choose scents correctly. If you find that your partner is not completely relaxed, a good bottle of wine could help put her at ease.

Dressing up

Women like it when their partners buy them sexy outfits and sexy lingerie. Since her man chose it especially for her, a woman can’t help but feel sexier in it. Many men still fear women’s lingerie boutiques, but with online shopping nowadays, men don’t have to worry. With the likes of La Senza on the net you can preview the outfit, buy it, and wait for the delivery. The only thing you have to do is gift wrap it.

Now you have the outfit and the room set up..

Kiss her

Us ladies love nothing more than a long, sensual kiss. It is the most intimate and sensual thing you can do to us. Proper kissing involves using the right amount of pressure and movement. Kissing can be done any time and any where, even before you reach the bedroom. If you really want to get your woman in the right mood, kissing her is how to start. Little pecks on her eyes, cheeks, chin, nose, and slowly outline her lips with the tip of your tongue. Once you get to her mouth don’t dive in. Slowly put your lips on hers, putting pressure then pulling back, gently sucking her bottom lip. This will entice her and set the mood for later in the bedroom.

Tempt her

Once the mood is set, don’t fall into the “same old, same old” trap, and always try new experiments. Perhaps a toy or porn will do the trick. Just remember lads, not all ladies love the porn so don’t over do it if you know she hates it.  A woman will sometimes want to reenact the scene in the film but others will give you a slap for putting it on.

Even if she doesn’t explicitly say it, you can judge her level of arousal by her breathing. Short breathing means that she is excited. Softly whispering how you feel to her can also increase sexual tension. Simply describe everything you are feeling, omitting anything that isn’t of relevance. This is the perfect moment to ask about her fantasies: Ask her an open-ended question, and be supportive of whatever answer she gives or she’ll never open up again.

By now you should be heavily into foreplay. Let her know that you are willing to pleasure her. Oral sex can certainly solidify your anticipation of a night of great sex. For the man who don’t properly know how to pleasure a woman orally, he should ask and allow her hands to help guide him. Time everything perfectly; this is perhaps the most important element for incredible sex. At this point, your partner should be completely relaxed and excited, and you are ready for a long night of passion.

READY, SET… GO!

Remember, Keep it romantic. Turn of anything that will distract you from your partner such as mobiles, TVs, game consoles and anything else that’s a boy toy. Always give your woman your full attention. Also remember, burping and farting isn’t sexy so keep that well away from the bedroom.